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Why We are Failing at Weight Loss

October 8, 2015

Why We Are Failing at Weight Loss. Long Terms Weight Loss is Complicated, Find Out Why! The Truth Behind Weight Loss!I can recall an Instagram post that I flipped through last week that is still stuck in my brain. It was from Danielle Laporte and she said, “Have a fucking opinion”. I don’t know why but I took it really seriously, because I often tend to keep my strong opinions to myself in fear of someone else outsmarting me. But seriously, enough of that!

I recently struck up a conversation with a lovely early fifty year old woman, who told me that last year had been a really hard year for her.

She hit menopause and had a thyroid issue all in one year and had put on a substantial amount of weight because of it. Naturally, she was seeing a medical doctor who recommended a weight loss program that would help her shed the extra pounds she put on throughout the year. So she listened to her doctor and tried it. The program was twenty five weeks long and she gave it her all. In the entire twenty five weeks of this medically recommended weight loss program they had one session that was an hour long on emotional eating. She has since finished the program and is feeling really down about her weight because she has already gained several pounds back and doesn’t know what to do. The tools they left her with were: A) Portion Control B) “If you want to maintain your weight, have 1700 calories a day, and if you want to loose more weight have 1200 calories a day”. Done. Thats it. Thats the takeaway from the entire program. Seems simple right??

Can we please talk about how wrong and flawed this system truly is??!!!

Not one dietician or doctor asked her about what her, history or struggles with food during the twenty five weeks that they spent with her. But in the ten minute conversation I have with her, she shares with me that she’s been an emotional eater since she was 14 years old. All I did was ask her a few simple, uncomplicated questions.

This conversation is completely and totally backwards. How is it possible that there is a medically recommended weight loss program for twenty five weeks and all they spend is one session on emotional eating? This is a program set up to make people fail and that is a fact. Our obesity+weight obsession is a plain and simple proof that the system is failing, BIG TIME. It is broken if a medical doctor is sending their patients to programs that encourage eating 1200 calories a day to loose weight. That will starve and potentially kill or ruin someones metabolism somewhere down the line. And it is. This is destiny with an eating disorder or disordered eating. Lets be real, Its only a matter of time.

I don’t know about you, but I want to create a solution, to our cultural weight problem, that works.

For once and all. If we are so concerned with the obesity epidemic and people being overweight lets get to the root of the issue. A) Food mixed in with emotions and people are complex. There isn’t a diet or a determined person in this world that can save themselves from that. You cannot fix it with an hour of work, or a calorie counting diet. It takes personal work for people to change their eating habits and a lot of support. B) Our food system is broken. Toxic foods are cheap and whole foods are expensive. People buy them and eat them and get sick. Then they try to fix it by dieting but they fail. Then they go back to buying toxic foods. Do you see the cycle? The worst part is, that it’s often people that are poor and uneducated. Fat isn’t the problem, our food system is, and so is our relationship with food.

Anyways, thats my opinion!

Got an opinion?? Share your thoughts on this topic please! But no hate or shaming is welcome here!

xo,

Soshy

 

Understanding and Overcoming Emotional Eating

March 26, 2015

DSC_9567Have you ever noticed that your doing really well with food, paying attention and being completly mindful and then all of the sudden you come home at night and say to yourself: “Screw it, I don’t care, it doesn’t matter, I’m just going to eat X,” even though in the back of your mind you know that its definitely going to hurt you? Believe it or not this way of thinking is the start of emotional eating, it’s incredibly common, and most of the time caused by a stressful event or a highly emotional situation that you haven’t had time to process.

Even the best diet cannot save you from this mindset. Food, or no food the mind will always be loud and unless you challenge your way of thinking it will have you on a chain.

The first step in changing this is:

Awareness, awareness, awareness! Start to take note of when your in this mindset. The way it will display itself in your brain is:

“I don’t care, Im just going to eat this whole box of X.”
“Screw it, this day sucked so I’m just going to reward myself with X.”
“It doesn’t really matter, I’ll start over tomorrow.”

Once you become aware and you know you’re in that mindset it’s time to get in to dialogue with it! Even though these thoughts may display themselves to you, you need to talk back to them and challenge them.

You can say things like:

“I really want to eat X but I also care about my eating and how it makes me feel.”
“I know you’re saying I don’t care, but I really do care and actually last time I ate these cookies they hurt me.”
“I know it seems like I don’t care but I’m really stressed out right now and I don’t actually want to do this with food. I’ll come back to the food but first let me…”

Next: Get curious!

  • What happened that day? Anything stressful?
  • Did you need to speak up more than you did?
  • Was your workload too much?
  • Did you have a fight with a loved one?
  • Are you feeling bad about your weight?

Then start to think about ways you can self-sooth without food (these are just a few).

  • Walk
  • Call someone and talk to them about your day.
  • Take a hot shower.
  • Paint your nails.
  • Read.

Do you identify with this blog post? What has your experience been when it comes to emotional eating. I would love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below!

xo,

Soshy

What foods are you not willing to give up for your perfect body?

June 23, 2014

_DSC4773Last week my girlfriend Karna, and I were sitting at the table picking though a box of chocolates. They were the  kind where you read all the flavors and then pick the one that you want. They’re one of my favorite kinds of chocolate because it feels just like a game! Read, go back and forth on your choice, choose, and then devour! As we were oohing and aahhing over the delicious flavors I said to her, “I feel like such a badass because I’m going clothes shopping later and I’m sitting here enjoying chocolate and I am not worried about whether things will fit me later on.”

We started to talk about how we used to be with food and our bodies and how far we have come and we marveled in how free we feel in being able to eat what we want and still have our version of, “the perfect body.” She asked me something really interesting, which is a great question I think everyone should ask themselves before attempting to make changes with food for,” the perfect body”.

“What foods, she asked, are you absolutely not willing to give up for the perfect body”?

I knew the answer immediately.

Hazelnut creamer with coffee in the morning, a couple of pieces of chocolate every day, cookies or ice-cream twice a month and at least one meal every now and then where I am not concerned over the amount or the ingredients. If I can have all that I am happy being in the body I am in, whatever that looks like.

If I cant have that, I am not happy being in the body that I am in even if it means I am 5 pounds thinner and have a more defined six pack. Why?? Because, even if I look that way it feels like my own version of hell, to not be able to eat in freedom. You cant appreciate being thinner if all you can think about is how you want chocolate or what foods you cant have. It doesn’t feel free and light and skinny when you have to be on a special diet to force your body to look a certain way.

So, I thought this was a good topic to talk about. Lets be straight here . We all, as women and men want to feel good in our bodies. We also want to look aesthetically good in our bodies and everyone has their own version of what a perfect body is whether its right, or wrong. Before you even attempt to get there, know that there has to be freedom emotionally and physically if you want to make changes long-term. Whatever changes you make with food here is the right question to start with:

What foods or treats are you absolutely not willing to give up for your perfect body?

Xo,

Soshy

 

 

 

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