Women

A How To Guide on Pulling Yourself Out of a Bad Body Image Day

February 13, 2016

Blog PhotoBad body image Days used to be the bain of my existence. It didn’t happen every single day but more often than not, I would get up in the morning and the first thing that would pop in to my head was, “I feel like a F!@#$% C!@#$%”. Following these thoughts I would run to the mirror, get naked, and pinch every ounce of my body, and then confirm everything I thought in my head to be completely, 100%, true. After that, it was a done deal. Not only would I be miserable for the rest of the day, or two or three days after that but it made me believe I had to starve myself or go on an extreme diet to “fix” the problem. The problem being ME and my fat.

I only found out years later, on my journey to healing my relationship with food and my body image, that I was the one who had to power to determine what I was going to do with the thoughts,  “I feel like a F!@#$% C!@#$%”. I could either let it ruin my day and become extremely reactive and hate on myself (which never made me thinner) or I could choose something a little more positive and lighter. So, even though it was some of the hardest choices I have ever made for myself, it paid off in the long run because over time I lost the extra weight I had gained and I developed a loving and compassionate relationship with my body. In this post I want to share my most proven tips to help you stay on track so that you don’t have to waste years of your life having bad body image days.

Your Thoughts are Not Your Reality

Your thoughts are thoughts, even if they feel like your reality. Imagine them like moving clouds. Watch and stay curious but don’t hold on because just as quick as they come through your mind they can be quick to leave if you stay put and let them move through you. Its only when we attach to our thoughts do they become our reality.

The Solution is Not A Diet

The answer isn’t dieting or using food to cope with your negative feelings about your body. Both can be true for you. You can either say, ” I hate my body and therefor I don’t care what I put in it, or you can say, “I look like shit, time to starve myself. But this reaction only puts you in a cycle with food that you don’t want to be in because you will diet, then fail and be back at the same place in no time at all. Instead, promise yourself to eat when your hungry, stop when your full and eat food that feel and taste good to you.

Move your Body

Go for a walk. Get your blood flow moving. This should never be about calorie counting type movement. It should be to the get the stuck energy in your brain and body moving so your not frozen in one place with your own negative thoughts.

Love is the Answer

Love is the game changer for everything that isn’t the way you want it to be. So, show yourself some love. Try to tell yourself, just for today your going to choose to love yourself and not hate yourself. Just for today, you are going to choose to accept yourself, not detest yourself. I know it sounds crazy but, love heals. Love prevails. Love is what you need.

Do you have bad body image days? If so, what do you do to pull yourself out of them?

xo,

Soshy

Three Ways to Have Freedom Around Food

February 11, 2016

Freedom Around FoodLets be REAL. Everyone wants to have a relationship with food that doesn’t make them feel restricted in some way or another. Because human beings don’t do very well with restriction. In fact our brains are not designed for it and neither are our bodies. This is why it is soo freaking hard to stick to a diet of any sort. Even the ones where you know, very clearly, that the food you are eating will make you sick.

In my free initial consultations I always end off with… If you could have anything you want from food, what would it be? 100% of the time it’s always, “I JUST WANT TO BE FREE WITH FOOD”!

And I know exactly what they are talking about. What most people want is to:

A) Eat food that feels good in their body and gives them loads of energy.

B) Have the occasional treat and not go completely and totally overboard to a point of no return.

Doesn’t this sound excellent?!! Guess what? Its actually quite attainable.

In this post I’m going to share three ways to get on the path of having freedom with your food.

Stop restricting entire food groups

For realz though! Most people are heavily influenced from whats going on in our culture with food. And it goes something like this: Cut out food groups–get thin body–you will be happy. But this is so very far from the truth because oftentimes you do get that thin body but you are so miserable because you can’t freaking eat anything that you then binge on the very foods you had initially cut out, creating a miserable cycle with food. Have a variety of foods, from many different food groups, on a consistent basis. Your body and mind will be one happy camper.

Take your power back from the choices you make with food

Instead of saying “I can’t have that”. Say, “I don’t want to have that”. Instead of saying “F!@#$ it, I’m gonna eat that”! Say, “I am choosing to eat that”. Let me explain further… I hear this all the time and I’m going to use myself as an example. I’m really in to having organic produce right now because of a million different reasons which I won’t get in to (it’s not my weight, I promise!). Anyways, my hubby came home with a bunch of non organic sweet potatoes the other night and I almost yelled at him and said: “I can’t eat those”!, But I quickly caught myself and realized I don’t want to eat that right now because I am choosing not to. It took the stress out of the equation and I took my power of personal choice back. Meaning, if I really want something I’m going to conciosuly choose to say yes or no and not look at it as an, “I can’t have”, problem. When you do this your giving all of your power away to food. Give yourself the choice to say yes or no. It will make you feel much better after you are done eating.

Make sure you prepare for treats

Now this one may seem scary for those on the diet/binge cycle but practicing this could totally change your life and your habits so listen up! Your going to have the treats whether you like it or not and of that, I can promise you. But screw doing it in a way that leaves you with your face in a bag of chips and chocolate and a severe food hangover the next day. I want to challenge you to make a list of all of your favorite binge foods. Go out, but it and prepare to have some of it every day. What this will do is take the crazy out of the food. Especially if you practice it over and over and over again. Who knows, if you take your time eating it, you may even realize you don’t like it that much.

Want to have freedom around food?! Try it:)

xo,

Soshy

 

 

 

 

 

Why We are Failing at Weight Loss

October 8, 2015

Why We Are Failing at Weight Loss. Long Terms Weight Loss is Complicated, Find Out Why! The Truth Behind Weight Loss!I can recall an Instagram post that I flipped through last week that is still stuck in my brain. It was from Danielle Laporte and she said, “Have a fucking opinion”. I don’t know why but I took it really seriously, because I often tend to keep my strong opinions to myself in fear of someone else outsmarting me. But seriously, enough of that!

I recently struck up a conversation with a lovely early fifty year old woman, who told me that last year had been a really hard year for her.

She hit menopause and had a thyroid issue all in one year and had put on a substantial amount of weight because of it. Naturally, she was seeing a medical doctor who recommended a weight loss program that would help her shed the extra pounds she put on throughout the year. So she listened to her doctor and tried it. The program was twenty five weeks long and she gave it her all. In the entire twenty five weeks of this medically recommended weight loss program they had one session that was an hour long on emotional eating. She has since finished the program and is feeling really down about her weight because she has already gained several pounds back and doesn’t know what to do. The tools they left her with were: A) Portion Control B) “If you want to maintain your weight, have 1700 calories a day, and if you want to loose more weight have 1200 calories a day”. Done. Thats it. Thats the takeaway from the entire program. Seems simple right??

Can we please talk about how wrong and flawed this system truly is??!!!

Not one dietician or doctor asked her about what her, history or struggles with food during the twenty five weeks that they spent with her. But in the ten minute conversation I have with her, she shares with me that she’s been an emotional eater since she was 14 years old. All I did was ask her a few simple, uncomplicated questions.

This conversation is completely and totally backwards. How is it possible that there is a medically recommended weight loss program for twenty five weeks and all they spend is one session on emotional eating? This is a program set up to make people fail and that is a fact. Our obesity+weight obsession is a plain and simple proof that the system is failing, BIG TIME. It is broken if a medical doctor is sending their patients to programs that encourage eating 1200 calories a day to loose weight. That will starve and potentially kill or ruin someones metabolism somewhere down the line. And it is. This is destiny with an eating disorder or disordered eating. Lets be real, Its only a matter of time.

I don’t know about you, but I want to create a solution, to our cultural weight problem, that works.

For once and all. If we are so concerned with the obesity epidemic and people being overweight lets get to the root of the issue. A) Food mixed in with emotions and people are complex. There isn’t a diet or a determined person in this world that can save themselves from that. You cannot fix it with an hour of work, or a calorie counting diet. It takes personal work for people to change their eating habits and a lot of support. B) Our food system is broken. Toxic foods are cheap and whole foods are expensive. People buy them and eat them and get sick. Then they try to fix it by dieting but they fail. Then they go back to buying toxic foods. Do you see the cycle? The worst part is, that it’s often people that are poor and uneducated. Fat isn’t the problem, our food system is, and so is our relationship with food.

Anyways, thats my opinion!

Got an opinion?? Share your thoughts on this topic please! But no hate or shaming is welcome here!

xo,

Soshy

 

Copyright © 2018 Embody Nutrition. Theme by Maiden Sites