Bad body image Days used to be the bain of my existence. It didn’t happen every single day but more often than not, I would get up in the morning and the first thing that would pop in to my head was, “I feel like a F!@#$% C!@#$%”. Following these thoughts I would run to the mirror, get naked, and pinch every ounce of my body, and then confirm everything I thought in my head to be completely, 100%, true. After that, it was a done deal. Not only would I be miserable for the rest of the day, or two or three days after that but it made me believe I had to starve myself or go on an extreme diet to “fix” the problem. The problem being ME and my fat.
I only found out years later, on my journey to healing my relationship with food and my body image, that I was the one who had to power to determine what I was going to do with the thoughts, “I feel like a F!@#$% C!@#$%”. I could either let it ruin my day and become extremely reactive and hate on myself (which never made me thinner) or I could choose something a little more positive and lighter. So, even though it was some of the hardest choices I have ever made for myself, it paid off in the long run because over time I lost the extra weight I had gained and I developed a loving and compassionate relationship with my body. In this post I want to share my most proven tips to help you stay on track so that you don’t have to waste years of your life having bad body image days.
Your Thoughts are Not Your Reality
Your thoughts are thoughts, even if they feel like your reality. Imagine them like moving clouds. Watch and stay curious but don’t hold on because just as quick as they come through your mind they can be quick to leave if you stay put and let them move through you. Its only when we attach to our thoughts do they become our reality.
The Solution is Not A Diet
The answer isn’t dieting or using food to cope with your negative feelings about your body. Both can be true for you. You can either say, ” I hate my body and therefor I don’t care what I put in it, or you can say, “I look like shit, time to starve myself. But this reaction only puts you in a cycle with food that you don’t want to be in because you will diet, then fail and be back at the same place in no time at all. Instead, promise yourself to eat when your hungry, stop when your full and eat food that feel and taste good to you.
Move your Body
Go for a walk. Get your blood flow moving. This should never be about calorie counting type movement. It should be to the get the stuck energy in your brain and body moving so your not frozen in one place with your own negative thoughts.
Love is the Answer
Love is the game changer for everything that isn’t the way you want it to be. So, show yourself some love. Try to tell yourself, just for today your going to choose to love yourself and not hate yourself. Just for today, you are going to choose to accept yourself, not detest yourself. I know it sounds crazy but, love heals. Love prevails. Love is what you need.
Do you have bad body image days? If so, what do you do to pull yourself out of them?