Have you ever noticed that your doing really well with food, paying attention and being completly mindful and then all of the sudden you come home at night and say to yourself: “Screw it, I don’t care, it doesn’t matter, I’m just going to eat X,” even though in the back of your mind you know that its definitely going to hurt you? Believe it or not this way of thinking is the start of emotional eating, it’s incredibly common, and most of the time caused by a stressful event or a highly emotional situation that you haven’t had time to process.
Even the best diet cannot save you from this mindset. Food, or no food the mind will always be loud and unless you challenge your way of thinking it will have you on a chain.
The first step in changing this is:
Awareness, awareness, awareness! Start to take note of when your in this mindset. The way it will display itself in your brain is:
“I don’t care, Im just going to eat this whole box of X.”
“Screw it, this day sucked so I’m just going to reward myself with X.”
“It doesn’t really matter, I’ll start over tomorrow.”
Once you become aware and you know you’re in that mindset it’s time to get in to dialogue with it! Even though these thoughts may display themselves to you, you need to talk back to them and challenge them.
You can say things like:
“I really want to eat X but I also care about my eating and how it makes me feel.”
“I know you’re saying I don’t care, but I really do care and actually last time I ate these cookies they hurt me.”
“I know it seems like I don’t care but I’m really stressed out right now and I don’t actually want to do this with food. I’ll come back to the food but first let me…”
Next: Get curious!
- What happened that day? Anything stressful?
- Did you need to speak up more than you did?
- Was your workload too much?
- Did you have a fight with a loved one?
- Are you feeling bad about your weight?
Then start to think about ways you can self-sooth without food (these are just a few).
- Call someone and talk to them about your day.
- Take a hot shower.
- Paint your nails.
Do you identify with this blog post? What has your experience been when it comes to emotional eating. I would love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below!